Invalidating Yourself Sounds Like…

Hey there, human,

If there were a contest for negative self-talk, I’d definitely rank.

To be perfectly clear, that’s a joke.

I’m doing my best these days to not compare myself to other people—positively or negatively.

It’s a struggle, and I often invalidate my emotions during this process.

So, in an attempt to understand what invalidation actually looks like day-to-day, I compiled this newsletter for both of us.

I hope you find it as insightful as I do.

Invalidating Yourself Sounds Like…

“Other people have it worse than me.”

Just because other people have it worse than you doesn’t mean you’re not feeling upset about your current situation.

Thinking so minimizes your emotions and suggests your feelings aren’t important, which is where invalidation begins.

You’re allowed to feel those feelings and others are allowed to have it worse than you.

Both can be true.

“I shouldn’t feel excited—I might come across as arrogant.”

I used to think invalidation only happened around negative* emotions… until I star…