The Three Steps To Letting Go

I write a lot about avoidance because it was my main anti-anxiety tactic for a long while.

Let me tell it to you straight: That didn’t work.

But it took me a long time to figure that out.

I want you to be able to move on faster than me, so here’s

The Three Steps To Letting Go

1. Accept that you have things to do

Acceptance is always first, because it grounds you in reality.

Accepting that you have things to do isn’t just saying, “I have things I need to do.”

It’s recognizing all that not doing the things means:

• your bills don’t get paid

• you live your life for someone else

• you don’t get to spend time with your cat

• you’ll die regretting not making that thing

The reasons can be small or big—nothing is too insignificant.

2. Surrender to the reality of the situation

Accepting the shitty consequences of your inaction is tough. This is where emotions run high and things get messy—temporarily.

Surrendering is the a beautifully cleansing experience most people are talking about when they say, “let go.”

Sometimes they mean it literally:

• let go of your emotions,

• let go of your control,

• let go of your expectations,

• let go of the life you thought you’d have.

3. Self-care through the process

It is so important to recognize self-care looks different for everyone.

Your brain will likely not need the same things as my brain needs in order to feel well rested and calm.

Self-care for me looks like:

• Showering & skincare

• Moving a meeting

• Playing Minecraft

• Laying with a cat or a dog

• Calling a friend or family member

• Baking banana bread with extra chocolate chips

• Going for a walk (with the proper protective gear)

• A fresh snack, like an apple with peanut butter or a smoothie

Today, Remember The Last Thing You Truly Let Go Of

The process is only three steps, and yet each step is harder than the last.

It may be simple, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy.

Give yourself time, space, and grace.

You got through it before…

I know you can do it again.

You got this.